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Mommy’s Away Traveling for Work Again

Today I am away from my home of Miami, Florida and away from my little boy.  My boss sent me off to Los Angles, California to attend a work function.  It’s not my first time spending the night away from my child, but it never seems to get easier.  I keep thinking about those big beautiful brown eyes of his and how they greet me so lovingly every evening when I get home from work.  If I could spend every second of my day with him and never let him out of my sight, it would be perfect. I can’t help but feel guilty for being away from him. I hardly get enough time and I feel like before I can even blink my eyes, he’ll be all grown up and I would have missed 90% of him growing up.  It’s almost like his grandmother is the one raising him and not me.  I hope he never holds my lack of time with him against me and that he understands I do it all for him.  More importantly, I hope he never loses the love in his eyes for me.  It would break my heart. This particular trip is only for one night and I’ll be back at home with my little one by tomorrow night.  It’s just a little anxiety.   I’m sure I’ll survive besides,  I’m on vacation all next week so its going to be major bonding time for me and my almond joy (as I like to call him).

So here I am.  Almost 3,000 miles away from home in a lonely hotel room in downtown Los Angeles.  I’m officially no longer a “LA Virgin”.  I’ve made my first visit and am surprised to learn it’s not the warm state I thought it was.  According to my phone, the current temperature is 64 degrees and according to my eyes, the skies are a bit dark and cloudy.  That’s cold!  Especially to someone who’s been living in Miami for the last 12 years. When I left Miami this morning, the temperature was already at 70 degrees and increasing by the minute. My good friend, Google, tells me it’s currently 84 degrees.  That’s 20 degrees warmer! Yes, I learned today that I’ve officially lost my “New Yorkness”.  Gone.  Out the window.  At least when it comes to the weather, it has.  Brrr. Where’s my sweater?

I wonder what Mason’s doing? He has no idea mommy is not coming home tonight.  No idea mommy is 3,000 miles away thinking about him in her quiet, lonely hotel room complaining about the weather.  She’s complaining about the cold in an effort to keep her mind focused on less important things and away from the fact that she misses her son. The truth is she’s using her complaint about the weather to mask her sadness. She’s trying desperately not to cry because she’s misses her son so badly.

Single Mommingly Yours,  M.


10 Reasons Why I Love Being a Choice Mom

On my drive home today from work I thought about my son. I thought about all the little things that make Mason, Mason and how I loved every single one of them.  This kid has truly been a blessing for me in every possible way and if driving didn’t require my keeping both hands on the steering wheel, I would have attempted to pat myself on the back for making such a great decision. 

Being a Choice Mom has undoubtedly worked out great for me.  It definitely has its advantages.  Allow me to share with you top 10 reasons why I love being a Choice Mom.  Just to mention a few…

10. “SingleChoiceMom” is a far more appealing username for social media than   “NotSureWhatIDrankThatNightAccidentalMom” would be.  As an English major, I’m not sure how comfortable I would feel about publicly displaying so many words bunched together without the use of any punctuation marks.  More importantly, finding a website that accommodates such a long username is probably close to impossible and if you do find one, it’s probably one you don’t to use anyway.

9.  I created a blog about it.    Yup! My life is interesting now.  I have something to write about.  I’d probably have something to write about if I was “NotSureWhatIDrankThatNightAccidentalMom” but then again, It’s possible I’d have some trouble remembering any of it so I’m glad I went the Choice Mom route. 

8.  Great conversation piece.  This worked amazingly well on a business conference I recently went to.  After 20 minutes of awkward silence among coworkers I rarely interact with: “Sooooo, I’m a choice mom.”  And immediately the questions started rolling in.  Random and unsual conservation starter, I know, but it works.  Don’t judge me.

7.  I can take all the credit for my child’s good looks.  Nobody knows what my baby’s father looks like so who else could rightfully take the credit for his “beautiful big eyes” and “full lips”?

6.  People think I’m fearless.  Obviously these people don’t know me very well.  I fear many things.  I am especially fearful of the big giant waterbug I saw in the back seat of my car.  I never saw the darn thing exit. I know one day it’s going to peek it’s ugly little head out at me while I’m driving.

5.  I make all the decisions.  I need not answer to or check with anyone when it comes to making decisions about Mason.  I chose to have him, I chose his name, I’ll decide what Religion he grows up practicing, what school he will go to, what state we will live in, what sports he will play… everything.  I decide EVERYTHING!  (Insert evil laugh here)

4.  Best excusable reason for always declining night-outs with friends.  Choice Mom means no dad every other weekend to come around and pick up Mason for two nights of freedom to go wild.  I have him EVERY weekend. 

3.  When Mason asks me about his father, I will only have positive things to say about him.  The truth is that without him, I could never have had my son.  So while he may not be in Mason’s life, he is my best friend and a wonderful man for having agreed give me the greatest gift anyone could ever receive.

2.  No baby daddy drama.  I hate the term “baby daddy” and you’ll probably never see me use it again, but it’s the only way I could put it on this list and get the point across quickly.  

and the number 1 reason I love being a Choice Mom is…drum roll please…

Mason.  Enough said.


Singly Mommingly Yours, M.


Why single mommyhood Kicks a$$!

Here are top 10 reasons offered by a fellow blogger. Can you think of any more reasons? I’d like to add one more to the list.


Ten Reasons Single Mommyhood Rocks.

Strong single mom

My Friday as a single mom

Yes! It’s finally Friday! This is the day of the week I’ve been looking forward to since…well, all week! Not only is it Friday, but it’s also payday.  I’m going to live it up tonight, have some drinks with friends and go club hopping all night and then I think I’ll do it again on Saturday.  Yes? 

No. That’s not my life anymore.  That was before Mason.

So what are my real plans for tonight and the rest of the weekend, you ask? The truth is I’m not sure.  You’d think with me being so excited about Friday I’d have alot lined up but I don’t.  I’m just excited for a weekend spent the majority of the time at home with my 11 month old best friend.  I’m excited about a little extra sleep (if I’m lucky).  I’m excited about possibly getting some laundry done and finally having some time to wash my hair. Most of all, I’m excited about spending some quality time with my little one. 

As a full-time single mom and grad student, I don’t get to spend very much time with Mason during the week.  My weekends are a blessing and I cherish them.  Weekends give me moments that if I lose, I can never get back again.  I will seize these moments in the company of my son and embellish them with the beauty that is Mason.   

So when they ask, “Can you get a babysitter for tonight?”  The answer is probably yes, I just don’t want to.

Singly mommingly yours, M.


Choice mommyhood. Is it “fearless and daring”?

Choice mommyhood. Is it “fearless and daring”?

Self Magazine recently published an interesing article titled, 13 Ways to be Bold. The article lists 13 different acts of boldness taken on by real women.  Of particular interest to me was bold act number 4, I had a Baby on My Own – on Purpose.  A Philadelphia woman in her late 20s describes how she made the decision to have a baby on her own and become a single parent.

So I’m not the only crazy one in the world! Other people have done this!

The word “Bold” is an adjective descibing a “fearless and daring act which requires and exhibits courage and bravery.”

What do you guys  think?  How true to this definition is choice mommyhood?  Do you think it’s fearless and daring or do you think we’re just crazy?

Click on the link below to check out the Article
13 Ways to be Bold – Self Magazine

13 Ways to be bold