This Is How The Name You Choose For Your Child Today, Can Effect Him Tomorrow

It’s a sad world when you hear that a young girl chooses to change her name because she feels that the name her mother gave her hinders her life and what people think of her.  Here’s the story of a 19 year old teenager from Kansas City, MO who did just that.  According to news on Huffingtonpost.com, Keisha Austin, who is of biracial background recently had her name legally changed to Kylie Austin because she felt that her birth name held a negative stereotype about her that was not true.

Studies have been conducted that show that when applying for jobs, applicants from certain ethnic groups receive less callbacks from agencies then white applicants.  The applicants with strong ethnic sounding names on resumes often have a more difficult time finding a job.

How many of us truly think about how our children’s names will effect them in the future? Unless you’ve been living in a bubble your whole life, the information I’ve written about how employers perceive names, shouldn’t surprise you.  It certainly doesn’t surprise me, and it’s something I thought about seriously when I was pregnant with my own son.  I even had a long conversation about it with a coworker.”His first and middle name will be Mason Alexander,” I said. “It sounds nice and it gives no indication that he comes from an hispanic background.”

While I love and take pride in the fact that I am of Dominican-American descent, I understand that the world we live in is not perfect and racial discrimination does exist.  As a Single Choice Mom, I was able to give Mason my last name.  I’m thankful for this because it’s not the typical hispanic last name where one could immediately conclude that I am hispanic.  So hopefully when he gets older, employers will hire him based on his credentials and not his name.

Celebrities don’t seem to think about these things when naming their children (Maybe they don’t have to because they’re rich anyway), but how do most mommies decide on the names of their children?  Do you consider how their names will effect them in the future or is it not even a thought in your heads?  How did you come up with your child’s name?

Single Mommingly Yours, M

To read the article from the Huffington Post, click on the link below.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/11/05/keisha-austin_n_4220259.html

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4 responses to “This Is How The Name You Choose For Your Child Today, Can Effect Him Tomorrow

  1. M, I’ve given a lot of thought to this topic this year during my adoption journey. I admit I cringe at some of the names that came along with beautiful little faces; my target age range meant that the kids may not want to change their name. I also admit that I wondered what people who will only know me after adoption might think as they assumed I named my child. My own parents gave me a rather WASPy name, despite carrying a noticeable Jewish surname. I’ve shown up to lots of places and met the reaction: Oh you’re Black!

    Hope’s name turned out to be easy and likely very acceptable–on paper you probably can’t tell her race. If and when she takes my surname, people will likely assume she’s Jewish.

    I never want to hide who I am, but I do want my kid to have a good chance.

    • AdoptiveBlackMom! I am so happy to hear that you’re now a mommy! As you may have already noticed, I’ve fallen a bit behind on blogging. Life keeps me busy and sometimes it’s difficult to find the time to write. Hope is a beautiful name and one that reflects what’s to come for you both in the future. I’m going home today to catch up on your blog and I’m looking forward to reading about your new life with your child. Many blessing to you both. I am truly very happy for you.

  2. It’s a shame people resort to changing their names for better opportunity, but I can understand both sides in this case. Very enlightening! Thanks for sharing.

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